Letter To My Unborn Daughter

Long time readers may or may not remember that over a year ago now I decided to write a letter to Clayton prior to his birth, and shared it in this blog. If you missed it, then recap and click  here . It's one of my favourite blog posts that I've ever written, I still go back and look at it from time to time and I look forward to a day it can be shared with our son and he will actually understand it. With baby number 2 on the way, I wanted to repeat the process for her but have been putting it off for fear of duplicating myself. But then when I really thought about it, I was scared of duplicating content for my blog readers - when in fact the letter (although shared with you all) is in fact for our baby girl and she should still receive one. Here are my efforts;

Dearest Baby Girl,

    It would have been silly of me to have come this far and give away your name wouldn't it? Just because me, your Mother and Brother know it; just because your little ears have heard it over and over, doesn't mean that everyone need know just yet. For now, here in this letter, you're to be known as 'Baby Girl'.

You know? We've waited long enough, dont you think? We're all getting impatient and cant wait to meet you properly. Daddy cried the day he learned that you were a little girl, and don't be suprised if I cry again when we first lock eyes and meet one another. It will be a special moment. In fact, let's make a promise to eachother now that we'll savour that moment for as long as possible. Let's spend all of our time cuddling, gazing at eachother and holding hands. You're to be the love of my life... I feel it and from that very first moment, I want to make sure that you know it. Mummy is besotted by you already too - in fact there's a whole bunch of people waiting to shower you with love. There might be some teething problems at first, but Clayton is going to make a fantastic Big Brother to you and I'm looking forward to the first time the two of you meet and melt my heart without knowing it. I'm even looking forward to the future when the two of you learn to melt my heart and actual know what you're doing too. I probably shouldn't tell you this, but Daddy is a sensitive soul and I'm actually already wrapped around your little finger. Claytons too! I don't stand a chance...

Mummy has been doing a fantastic job of carrying you around and giving you strength, nurturing your beating heart from within and preparing you for your grand entrance. It's been difficult for her to do that great job whilst running around after your Brother who is still so dependant on her himself, but she's been a superstar. You're very lucky to have such a wonderful woman as your Mother and I pray that you recognise that as you grow. Daddy will always be there for you but your Mother will be your very best friend and you'll never find anyone as special as her. My first piece of advice to you Baby Girl is to tell you to appreciate her and show her how much she means to you because yours and your brothers health and happiness is the only thing she really cares about.

Speaking of advice, I have a few more gems that I want to make sure you always remember:

Dont settle for second best - You were created with love and for a purpose and you should live your life that way. To live life the way it should, and the way you deserve to requires only the best and hence you should settle for nothing less.

Remember you're beautiful - In Daddy's eyes you'll always be breathtakingly beautiful, but you need to believe that yourself too. Remember that real beauty is within, built into a character and never superficial. Respect yourself, love yourself and pay no mind to media hyped stereotypes of what THEY believe to beautiful.

Do what makes you happy - Be safe, ethical and morally sound, but ignore the voices around you that try and influence you for the wrong reasons. Your happiness is all that really matters and don't be afraid to make a decision based on achieving that outcome alone.

Don't be afraid to be different. Don't be afraid to stand out - Don't be influenced. Rebel against anything you don't believe to be right; even if that means challenging authority (myself included). Because the majority are doing something, doesn't make it the best thing to be doing. Just because the people around you are trying it fit in to what is seemingly the norm, doesn't mean you have to if deep down you'd rather not.

Be a good Sister - I want yours and your Brothers relationship to be special. You're the only sibling he has and he is the only one you have. Treasure eachother. Listen to eachother. Look out for eachother. There will be some tough times along the way but I assure you that nothing matters more than our little family.

Baby girl, my biggest hope for us and our relationship is that we can openly and honestly communicate with eachother. Not just me and you, but the 4 of us as a family. You will always be able to come to me with any problem and I promise that I will help you figure it out. The love that you will receive from me and your Mother comes condition-free and we will love you deeply and dearly and because of that there will never be anything going on in your life that you will be unable to approach us with.

Sweetheart, we cannot wait to meet you. I hope that one day I'll be able to read this letter to you aloud. I hope that I'll be able to read many letters to you aloud, and I hope that you can look back on this entire blog with your Brother. The journey is one we are all on together and will be the greatest journey we ever take. That's why I chose to document it and I hope we will all enjoy looking back on it together. The memories we are all yet, together, as a family to create are the reason I live. We're just waiting for you to get here. Hurry up and join us...

I already think you're beautiful. You already make me proud. I love you from the bottom of my heart.

Daddy

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